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In recent months, Miranda Kerr and Selena Gomez have become incredibly close, Instagram tells us. The unlikely friendship was struck up (and has lasted beyond) their Louis Vuitton X UNICEF campaign despite both being rumoured to have had “encounters” with each other’s exes, Orlando Bloom and Justin Bieber.
While it’s commendable that both women can put the past behind them and attend a dinner party (or the Met Gala) with mutual friend Nicolas Ghesquire, we know, in real life, it’s not always this easy. Granted neither Kerr nor Gomez are dating Bloom or Bieber anymore, we had to wonder how the supermodel felt when she saw singer Katy Perry and her ex-husband at the Met Gala together. The introduction of the new K-Bloom (instead of the old Kerr-Bloom) surely hurt a little in the same way Kate Bosworth would have felt about Kerr all those years ago. (Note: This was also a K-Bloom relationship!)
Despite your level of “I’m over him”, seeing an ex with another love can create an instant pit in your stomach; the type of feeling where you wish you could un-see what you just saw but you just can’t look away. “We do feel awkward, self conscious and possibly angry or disempowered,” says psychologist Gemma Cribb (equilibrium psychology). Last night, Nicole Kidman was in the same room as Katie Holmes. Kristen Stewart was in the same vicinity as FKA Twigs and Robert Pattinson. Don’t think celebs aren’t exempt from these feelings. Here, a few rules to ensure your next encounter with a past love and his new love is one you can handle.
EMPOWER YOURSELF “Approach them,” says Cribb. “Show your strength and be the one to make the first move.”
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BE HUMAN: “It is endearing for you to show the other woman (and those around you) that you feel the way she/they feel. A self-effacing, ‘well this is awkward! Is my lipstick ok?’ will win you the crowd vote and popularity is power after all,” says Cribb.
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REMEMBER SHE IS HUMAN “She is not better than you or more confident. As much as you are thinking, ‘what does she have that I don’t?’, she is probably thinking, ‘I hope I measure up!’ says Cribb.
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REMEMBER HE IS NOT PERFECT “It’s called a break-up because it’s broken. No matter how good it looks right now, remind yourself of the reasons why he wasn’t the right one for you. Those reasons still apply,” says Cribb.
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